One of the biggest lessons we learn in the metaphysical world is discernment and setting boundaries. We are not supposed to teach everyone, help everyone, agree with everyone, or enable anyone. We are supposed to set healthy boundaries with all our friends, clients and students. There are many in the world who try to heal all the sick, read for all those who want readings and never make them do an energy exchange (money is a form of energy exchange), and then wonder why their skills aren't sharp, they are sick, they feel drained or their life is becoming their karma. We are not supposed to do for everyone. Part of what we do in life to help others, is to teach them to help themselves. How can we teach them to trust in the process if we don't already trust that all is divinely aligned and well. We have to set boundaries in everything we do. That includes spiritual work. We cannot help others if our battery is always low. We cannot be at the top of our game, or safe in intense situations if we are half worn out, not sharp, and alert. But, most importantly, why do we feel compelled to be their guide. To give them answers means their is some level of seniority that one is more evolved than another. Most readers are just the same as you or I. Why are they more in touch with your journey than you looking within? Recently, I made choice to back off from doing private sessions because I was watching how energy was being manipulated by the energy exchanges. There are some who walk away feeling freedom and perfectly aligned to whatever they asked for but who had to take on the karma not worked out? Many people get excited over delving into the psychic, the supernatural, the metaphysical. It is fascinating and eye opening, but it is not a game. You are going in to places where there are energies that are strong, serious, and concentrated, if you don't know what you are doing, you can get into serious trouble. You can be helping to heal someone who has serious issues and dark energy, and when you open yourself up to heal that person, it can come in. Some people you show tools too assist along their path, and they use them to "heal others" and they can then change their direction on a dime and follow another tune in a song that they never heard before. Make sure you are always with someone who knows what they are doing, and also remember that there are many fakes and self taught people from the the internet. Many who are innocently trying to help you because they are helping themselves. There is nothing unconditional love about this exchange. The dynamic is that someone has taken upon themselves to be god and they can very well interfere with your very own beautiful journey that is waiting for you. Learn from people who know what they are doing and look again into your heart. If you need validation, the universe will speak to you. Even the best intended energy workers and guides have more to learn. Meanwhile, for all energy workers, give yourselves a break. Look within if it is all worth it to do all your work to hand it over to someone to exchange you with theirs. If you are truly allowing divine to heal, then know all is well and they got this. Don't sap your strength, you may need it one day too. Energetically you are carrying each and every soul, karma, imprint and many many layers not yet revealed when you decide to take it upon yourself to provide your advice. Those who rely on you will become attached and will require you to continue carry them through their decisions and judgement. Can you imagine walking along a desert walking 10 miles? Now, if you decide to walk that same 10 miles and carry two people as well. Do you see how that would take much more energy to achieve. We only know what we have been shown. We also have to constantly remember to listen to Universal messages. When the Universe is telling you to stay away from a person, even if they need help, stay away. Maybe it is not time for them to receive help yet, maybe more lessons need to be learned, or another person may be effected. It is not our place to second guess the Universe. We are here to partner with the Universe and be the human forms that help do things so others can learn, grow and thrive. Never to heal.
Cheers, The Red Ferrari, Owner of Get the Soulmate and Dump the Rest Author of Love in the 12th Dimension and Twinflames Reunite.
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I had an interesting subject come up this week and thought to share with you all. Empaths and the effect of empathy on those we love unconditionally.
There is a part of the physical biological makeup of brain cells that are responsible for compassion. We share another's pain, fear or different joys by mirroring emotions back to those we are connected with. True empaths have hyper-responsive neurons that resonate with another persons feelings. These mirror neurons are triggered by events that are outside of us. It is as if our energy is put into another and we are part of that persons emotional response in a mirror. If our spouse gets hurt, we feel hurt too. Sociopaths, narcissists and psychopaths do not have the complete ability to feel empathy like a true empath do. This is a sliding scale of what science calls "empathy deficient disorder" as narcissists have ability to feel empathy but they are not able to hold that energy unconditionally but with conditions. At some point they let go and free up their own space to pursue different needs and let the other who is an empath to be confused and depleted energetically to what just happened. This is because of an under-active neuron system. None of these people are incapable of unconditional love. They will always take care of themselves foremost. Empaths tend to have a higher sensitivity to dopamine which is associated with the pleasure response. Research has shown that inverted empaths tend to have a higher sensitivity to dopamine than extroverts because they need less dopamine to be happy. This could explain why they are more content with alone time, reading, walking in the woods and meditation. Others crave the dopamine rush from lively events and activities. They can not get enough of the rush. Empaths are more sensitive to the electromagnetic fields generated by the brain and the heart. (this is where those who can not love unconditional also are missing this ability to open the heart connection completely) Research has shown that many people pick up the emotions of those around them. One crying infant will set off a wave of crying in a hospital ward. One person loudly expressing anxiety in the workplace can spread it to the other workers. Catching feelings is more common than catching a cold. This ability to synchronize moods with others is crucial for good relationships. What is the lesson for empaths? To choose positive people in our lives so we are not brought down by the negativity. But what can you do if you are not able to choose the people you are surrounded with? Grounding, shielding and remaining centered is important. No one is superior to another person as one is not less of a person. Some people have a different purpose of healing you when some people are to love you unconditionally. Grounding is a process of each day and also before each person you interact with allow your energy to pull down below your feet towards the earths surface. Myself, I allow my feet to become deep roots quickly spreading further downward deep into the soil below me. Do this for a few minutes. I then surround myself with light and this light is flowing inside of me as well so no intrusion of anything less of unconditional love. This is a form of a shield that allows all of the love and light to shine from you and anything going to you is going to go through that unconditional beam of light. My light has a strong filter to allow all the negative energy to be sifted through and removed. A clear shield will work for those in very toxic environments that are full of congested people and just needing a coat of protection. Make sure the shield does remain clear as your light will need to shine through as you may be the only source of light in the room. Staying centered is remaining calm and feeling at peace. Do not entwine your own thoughts with the gossip or negativity that you experience. By focusing on them you take on their energy instead of repel it. Paying attention to what you like about a person or group will allow you to remain in a state of unconditional gratitude and love that will protect your own energy and not be deprived of those who may be energy vampires depleting your vital energy. The average adult human body is 50-65% water, averaging around 57-60%. We need water to move energy. Empaths are very energetic beings and can get dehydrated easier than most. Drink water more frequently during stressful or challenging times. Meditation is not something an app can easily do for you. Those are forms of distraction to give you a focus to direct your mind. Watching a good movie or reading a good book can do the same thing. Not saying a good distraction is helpful, but once the distraction is gone, the negativity is still there. By practicing meditation, you are learning how to release all thought forms and go deeper into a state of inner peace and knowledge. Here you can ask what needs to be addressed by the alignment with those who are depleting your energy. We are always blessed with growth and lessons with everyone we are challenged to overcome. Everyone is an opportunity to evolve. The Dali Lama says "Empathy is the most precious human quality" During any of these stressful times, it is easy to get overwhelmed. Empathy gives us the ability to respect one anther even when we may have a different experience or disagree. It may not be effective in getting through people who do not use their heart, but to be an empath you are conditioned to try to love everyone unconditionally. I went back to my roots to heal.
What does that mean? As I realized lately that my own disappointment was because I got lost, it was important for me to remember how I got found. The best way to heal is to heal others they say. No one is immune to triggers, even me. Currently working on an animation version of my audiobook and this is taking me back to when there was nothing more inspiring than to dream and to hope that love is real. Reliving the days of coaching those who wanted to find love and share theirs with another. Two years ago, I ran away to British Columbia to hide from the truth that scared me. I believed that love was for everyone but me. For those who understand love is an energy of yourself projected to you. Once you find love within yourself, you will then have someone show up that will mirror this to you. Those who know me, know I amplify this love and started to question its truth. Shortly after I arrived in British Columbia, I met a man who did not matter much when I met him but something told me, there was more to him than I would know. But during our initial meeting, I said to him very casually that I know things and I don't know why. He made a joke to tease me, but I got upset and our evening was not a success. We tried again after some time had passed and I was living closer to downtown. The moment I saw him getting out of his car, I was in love, but I did not understand. He became everything I had dreamed and more. We were very happy. But, you know when that overwhelming fear from the past comes up, and that monster did not want to hide. I can not explain my behaviour. But it was me, and set off by him doing something that usually did not bother me. So why now, and the one person I cared so much for, that I would do such a thing? Deep inside, I never felt anyone who loved me would leave, so I became too safe and allowed him to know that I had a past that hurt me. Sadly enough, I learned a lesson that even a man who loves you will still leave. So I went back to heal with my tribe. The beautiful gift of divine readings flowed and many received the information to help them evolve. 50 readings a day, and each full of so much love. I am radiating from the energy that surrounds me. I know that divine this time is guiding me safely. I had to choose me this time. My new audio book preview. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-814NfLSNDM&t=15s and while you are there, please subscribe if you want updates as I add more. The Red Ferrari, Owner of Get the Soulmate and Dump the Rest Author of Love in the 12th Dimension and Twinflames Reunite. |
AuthorVicki Martin (AKA The Red Ferrari) is the author behind Love in the 12th Dimension, How To Manifest a Soulmate and Get The Soulmate And Dump The Rest as well as Rediscovering Abundance: Healing the Inner Child to Resolve Relationship Insecurities, Subconscious Pain, and Poverty She is a makeup artist, esthetician accountant, subtle energy therapist, workshop facilitator, artist, stylist, relationship coach, and mother of 4.. Her work across multiple disciplines broadly addresses narratives of human experiences within and shared with others. If you want to read more similar articles, to find out more about the author or to schedule an online healing session, visit www.loveinthe12thdimension.com Archives
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