That kind of love

If you could go back and change one mistake, one decision, one answer, what would you do?  I know so much more now.  More about myself. More about you.  And more about what I could have done better.  This is the direction I must go now.   This is what I am to do.

We are so easily replaceable after all. 

And why do you believe you are the match for me?
What you seek is seeking you too....
I scroll through the profiles one by one looking for that spark of pulling me into you.  Your photos are handsome and charming.  You may have qualities that show character of heart and soul. The moment you send along a message, I savoir that moment of delicious intent.  To wonder if this will lead to more or another attempt to show me to keep looking through the profile in search of less contrast of who I am. 

No expectations, no worries of what the future holds in my way.  I get caught up in the fantasy of delight.  Does anyone really find their true love here when there is so many looking to forget the one who got away?  We all know what we don’t want.  Do any of us know what we really want if we never had it? 
 
We enjoy the song of the Escape Pina Colada song where the woman in the man''s life was invisible to him until he went searching looking for what he was missing in his life.  It was then that she showed up and found out that they never knew each other and was really what they were missing along.  

Be patient  Be real, Be authentic, Be cool too......no fakes please as we all can watch actors on TV. No longer trying to push a square peg in a round hole.
We all come to relationships with unresolved issues from our past, and we naturally look to our partners to make us feel good about ourselves. And so it's always a surprise when we finally think we've found love, only to experience pain and frustration.  The problem often isn't that we've chosen the wrong partner, it's that we're not looking at the root cause of our disenchantment. 

A relationship is one in which both people are free to be themselves, yet there is no shortage of intimacy. No fear that doing what you love or being who you are or taking time for yourself will drive the other person away.  In a relationship, neither person needs the other to complete them. Both people are awake to themselves, their feelings and thoughts, and are open to the flow of love and attention with one another.
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It's about two equals celebrating together rather than needing something from the other.  A relationship  is one where both people are in harmony. And that's exactly what it feels like: in tune, relaxed, and just plain fun.

When was the last time you had that kind of love?

​The Red Ferrari 
Author of 
Get the Soulmate and Dump the Rest
Love In The 12th Dimension
How To Manifest Your Soulmate
Rediscovering Abundance
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