Is he a NARCISSIST or are you in a MISOGYNISTIC RELATIONSHIP?

Is he a NARCISSIST or are you in a MISOGYNISTIC RELATIONSHIP?
There is a difference.

One is a personality disorder based on self absorbed behaviors and Second is a trauma based subconscious hatred for females.

Narcissism generally includes an inflated sense of self-importance, preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success or brilliance, and an excessive need for admiration. Narcissists typically do not recognize such feelings as abnormal but instead attribute all setbacks to external sources.
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If you notice that your husband/boyfriend frequently disrespects you, you may be in a misogynist relationship without realizing it. So, what does misogynistic mean?

Research has described it as involving hatred, dislike, and prejudice toward women. If you are dating a misogynist, he may have an aversion toward women in general, meaning he wouldn’t respect them or value them as being equal to men.
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Being in a misogynistic relationship means an unbalanced power dynamic, in which your partner has all the control in the relationship, does not consider your opinion, and views you as being his inferior.

12 Signs of a Misogynistic Relationship

When red flags show up, you should start looking for some signs of misogyny that you might’ve previously ignored. If you’re feeling disrespected and treated like you are not equal in your relationship, some of the following telltale signs may point to a misogynistic relationship:

1. He sees women in black and white terms
A misogynist man cannot forgive flaws or mistakes in women because he simply dislikes women. Those seen as imperfect are immediately labeled as evil or “sluts.”
If your man constantly talks about other women being horrible, or he finds fault with all of your friends, this is one of the signs of a misogynistic relationship.

2. He’s controlling
Another one of the clear signs of a misogynistic man is that he is incredibly controlling in the relationship. Since misogynistic men don’t see women as having value, he thinks he can dictate things like how you dress, who you speak to, where you go, and what you do.
He may even belittle you or make degrading comments to you to exert control and get you to do what he wants you to do.

3. He’ll blame you for everything
When you’re dating a misogynistic person, you’ll notice that he blames you for everything. If he has a bad day or something doesn’t go his way, he’ll be quick to let you know that it’s your fault.
Perhaps you didn’t do a good enough job cooking, which is why he didn’t meet his weight loss goal, or maybe his stocks didn’t do well this month because you were stressing him out, and he didn’t make good investments. Whatever it is, you’ll always be at fault

4.You say sorry constantly 
Another one of the obvious signs of a misogynistic man is that he ensures that you say sorry to him all the time. Since everything is always your fault, you’ll be the one to apologize, whereas he can never bring himself to say sorry.

5. He seems to have multiple personalities
A man who demonstrates constant hatred for women probably isn’t going to get a woman to date him. This means that at times, and especially in the early stages of a relationship, even the most misogynistic of men will come across as sweet and charming.
As the relationship progresses, it might seem like he has two personalities. When he is angry, his hatred for women may come out, so he may be incredibly volatile and cruel during arguments, only to seem like a different person after his anger subsides.

6. He treats men and women differently
You might notice that your man is okay with being late for dates with you, or he may cancel plans with you, but he would never do that to one of his male friends. This is because he truly values the opinion of his friends, whereas he sees you as being less important.
Treating men and women differently is one of the more significant signs of a misogynistic relationship, as it hints at an inherent assumption regarding one’s superiority over the other.

7. He’s sexually controlling
It is clearly one of the signs of a misogynistic relationship if your man never wants to please you in bed and is only fixated on his own needs. He will be sexually controlling, demanding that you perform sexually for him whenever he asks, and he will only care about his preferences.

8. He’ll have no trouble cheating
Remember, one of the characteristics of a misogynistic man relationship is his general dislike for women. This means that he doesn’t feel that he owes you any loyalty, and he will be more than willing to cheat if another woman catches his eye.
One of the signs of a misogynistic relationship is that your partner may even think he is entitled to whatever woman he wants, even when he’s already dating you because he views himself as superior.

9. He doesn’t keep his promises to you
If you’re in a misogynistic relationship, your man may routinely make promises to you but fail to follow through with them.
He may promise a fancy vacation or make plans to take you out for your birthday, but then never make good on those plans. This is because he doesn’t see you as being worthy enough. He may even appear shocked when you are upset that he fails to follow through with promises.

10. He isn’t happy about your success
He may become upset about the successes in your career or even suggest that you quit your job. If you’re successful in your job, especially if you make more money than he does, a misogynistic partner may become upset or even angry.
In his mind, men are superior and should always be more successful than their female partners. He may even sabotage your career or suggest you stay at home and take care of the household instead of working.

11. You feel like his maid
A man who views women as inferior is likely to expect his partner to care for him. This means you will be expected to cook, clean, and pick up after him. He views you as a servant since you don’t have much value beyond doing whatever he asks.
It is one of the clear signs of a misogynistic relationship when you feel subservient to your partner and are expected to do everything for him.

12. The relationship may become violent
A misogynistic man who truly hates women and views them as inferior may resort to physical violence. Because he doesn’t value women, he will see no problem in becoming violent if it helps him get his way.

In many cases, signs of a misogynistic relationship stems from childhood trauma. For instance, your husband or partner may have been the victim of abuse from his mother, which may have led him to develop negative opinions of women.

Working through any underlying trauma or childhood issues may help him overcome some of his prejudice against women. Eventually, you and your partner may consider going to couple’s counseling to learn about healthy communication and boundary setting.

If these strategies do not work, or the relationship becomes violent, you may have to walk away to ensure safety for yourself. Remember, no one is deserving of emotional abuse, and you have a right to seek a relationship that is free from misogynist characteristics.  You need to look at your happiness verses self-sacrifice.  
Cheers,

​The Red Ferrari 
Author of 
Get the Soulmate and Dump the Rest
Love In The 12th Dimension
How To Manifest Your Soulmate
Rediscovering Abundance
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